Happy International Women’s Day! As a woman, I can name so many women in my life, both past and present, who have affected me and made me into who I am today. There are women that I was close with, those who only came in my life for a fraction of a second, those I’m still connected with, and those that I’ve never met, however they all share a common demoninator and it’s the fact that I will forever be thankful of the bond between us.
Most women (and a lot of men too), tend to feel like they have to “do it all” and “be it all” for their friends, family, and work. However, it’s when we constantly think that “having it all” is what we want, to lose site of what “it all” actually means to us.
Is it a new car?
A new house?
A clean house?
An aspiring career?
Being able to work 10 hours, take care of the kids, cook dinner (in the spotless kitchen), all while folding laundry and looking like you’re about to step onto the red carpet?
Whatever it is, it’s days like this (that also coincide with the New Moon) that I take a step back and do a little self assessment because if we don’t look inward at our true self then we tend our self worth goes down.
We begin to think that our weaknesses are just that, weaknesses, things that should be avoided, taken down, hidden. But, admitting our weaknesses only show us that we are strong and by turning the attention inward, we become self aware of who we are, who we want to become, and why we want to go there. So think first:
What is my version of “having it all” and is it really what I want?
It’s so easy to get caught up in what we perceive as being “it all” whether it’s from society, our family, or our friends. Our own personal image can get clouded by other people’s ideas of what “it all” actually is.
On this new moon, a time when we need to reconnect with ourselves and reaffirm what we are looking for. It’s a time when our thoughts can become scattered if we don’t focus and take the time and energy to turn inward. It’s also a time when we may beat ourselves down a little bit, feeling lethargic, apathetic, and just down. That’s ok if you’re looking at it with an honest eye and instead of continuing the self beat down, focus on the truth in your comments and see where you can make changes that will help you move forward towards your true self.
This is an easy meditation that anyone could use to help focus on their true self while also opening (which isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign that we are embracing what the universe is offering us). Do it for 2 minutes, 5 minutes, or 40 minutes. Just make some time for yourself. I hope you realize that your strength comes from what you perceive as your weaknesses.
Find a comfortable seat. You can sit in easy seat or sukhasana on the floor or on a pillow or bolster. Just find a place where your spine can reach towards the sky while your tailbone grounds down to Mother Earth. Allow space to open between each vertebre of the spine while it helps you lengthen your torso. Roll the shoulders up to the ears on an inhale through the nose and then exhale out the mouth as you bring your shoulders back and down.
Come into your natural breath. Focusing on the breath going in and out through the nostrils. Allow any thoughts or feelings to just float by. Don’t get discouraged if there are a number of thoughts, instead just allow them to move on without becoming attached to them.
Now that you’ve centered yourself, begin to deepen the breath and on an inhale chant (internally or externally) “I am” and on the exhale chant (internally or externally) “strong.” Continue for as many breaths as calls to you.
Next follow the same breath but chant “I am” on the inhale and on the exhale “kind.” Continue for as many breaths call to you.
Next follow the same breath but chant “I am” on the inhale and on the exhale “love.” Continue for as many breaths call to you.
Next follow the same breath but chant “I am” on the inhale and on the exhale “enough.” Continue for as many breaths call to you.
Next follow the same breath but chant “I am” on the inhale and on the exhale “me.” Continue for as many breaths call to you.
Next follow the same breath but chant “Sat” on the inhale and “Nam” on the exhale meaning “I am truth.” Continue for as many breaths call to you.
Finish the meditation by coming back to your breath and bowing to your inner light.
Wishing you love and light.
As always, “bee well,”